LORD COCKBURN, in the
“Memorials of his Time,” narrates in delightful language the domestic
manners and habits of old Scotch ladies of the better class of society.
Dean Ramsay also, in his admirable “Reminiscences of Scottish
Character,” follows in the same strain, recording many a racy anecdote
of ladies in the olden times. In the ancient burgh of Haddington, there
lived some years ago many such worthy respectable family ladies whose
manners and habits shed a lustre on the society in which they moved, and
whose kind, affectionate, and friendly deeds will long remain fragrant
in the recollection of those who were privileged to know them. They
formed, indeed, the aristocracy of Haddington. There were the Misses
Donaldson of Sunny Bank, Misses Wilkie of Haddington House, Miss
Clapperton, Miss Sawers, Miss Peggy Craig, Mrs Hunter, Mrs Ferme, Mrs
Hislop, Miss Mary Maitland, and Miss Craw—with many others.
Eighty years ago, Miss
Jenny Halyburton kept, in Bothwell Castle in Hardgate Sireet, the
principal school for young girls, and most of the old Haddington ladies
received their first education there. The fact of having been at Miss
Jenny’s school formed a bond of love and friendship in future years
among her scholars.
Miss Jenny, by all
accounts, was a good teacher and much respected, but she was a strict
disciplinarian, and any great neglect of lessons or misbehaviour was
punished by confinement for some time in Bothwell’s kitchen. Miss Jenny
was a member of an old East Lothian family now extinct, and related to
the Halyburtons of Eaglescairnie. Her brother “Sandie,” life-renter of
the farm of Hollandside, was the last of the name in East Lothian.
Tea-parties were the
great social gatherings among the Haddington ladies, and were one of the
institutions of the time. They were grand affairs, and were far
different from the new-fashioned parties of the present day and
generation. Invited at the early hour of five o’clock in a winter
afternoon, the party assembled. Miss Peggy Craig’s best tea, infused
from a steaming urn on the table, with lots of home-baked bread and
cakes, with the accompaniments of jelly, honey, &c., were relished as a
hearty meal. The evening was spent in a hearty, sincere, and enjoyable
flow of conversation about old stories in Miss Jenny’s time, current and
coming events in town and country, and news of “kith and kin” in home
and foreign lands. Nothing delighted the youngsters of the family more
than being brought in after tea, dressed in their best, and enjoying the
stories and anecdotes of the ladies.
The Misses Donaldson of
Sunny Bank, and the Misses Wilkie of Haddington House, will be long
remembered for their kind, friendly, and genial dispositions, and for
their unostentatious and benevolent deeds of charity to the poor.
An anecdote, worthy of a
place in Dean Ramsay’s book, is recorded of Miss Mary Maitland, sister
of Colonel Maitland of Maitlandfield and Pogbie, and connected with the
Lauderdale family. Miss Mary, had an old Scotch aristocratic pride about
her. When it came to be common for the shopkeepers of the town to be
called “esquires,” Miss Maitland was very wroth, and used to exclaim,
“Gude save us, folk canna spit owre the window noo for fear o' spitting
on an ‘esquire.'” It is related of another Haddington lady, at the time
when burgh politics were running high, that she tackled a deacon (“who
kent his wark") of her husband's party who was refractory and shy. By
dint of suavity she made him all right, and he voted with his old
friends. Another old lady, of independent spirit, did not think it below
her dignity to. appear in person—accompanied with a lady friend—in the
Sheriff Court as defender in a case for killing some game-cocks
belonging to her neighbour (Dr Fyfe), which had trespassed into her
garden and done damage. After a lengthened discussion and evidence as to
the breed of the birds, the cock-fighting doctor came off second best.
It was a custom for the
ladies' servants to come and take home their mistresses from the
tea-parties at eight o'clock. A meeting was therefore held in the
kitchen until the ladies were ready to move, and no doubt much gossip
took place. Each servant brought a well-cleaned glass lantern (Scottice,
“a bouat") with her to light her mistress home. The servant marched on
some yards in advance to clear the way. The streets were lighted in
those days with miserable oil lamps, that only served to make darkness
visible.
The old “Penny Ladies,”
or Haddington Female Society for Relief of the Poor, was long under the
secretaryship of Mr Thomas Lea, and ably managed by Dr Cook. It dates
its commencement from the beginning of the present century. Almost all
the old ladies of past generations were members of it, and in their
visits among the deserving native poor of the town, afforded them much
comfort by the monthly donations, besides distributing coals to them at
Christmas or New Year. The yearly “coal sermon” was always looked
forward to as a great event. Many eminent ministers came from a distance
to preach it. It is to be hoped that such a valuable society as the
“Penny Ladies” will long exist in the burgh. Menie Coach (Davie
Gourlay’s old housekeeper), an old Haddington woman, was long the
“warner” to the ladies of their monthly visitations. A number of curious
old characters were among the recipients of the “Penny Ladies’” charity.
There were Nannie Cairncross, of famous memory, Tibbie Instant, Widow
Cairny Betait, Lizzy Richardson (“Clagham Lizzie”), Bet Dudgeon, Nell
Marshall, Lewie Linton, Will Clephane, &c., &c. Bet Dudgeon was a
curious character in her day. Come of rather better folk — her father
having been Deacon of the tailors—she was a “proudfu’ bodie.” She kept a
school for young children. Long and fickle words she could not
understand, she told her scholars to pass them over as they were names
of towns and of no consequence. Nell Marshall, or "Dog Nell,” was a
thrawn old woman. She had always one or two dogs—hence her name. A young
gentleman, who, in his younger days, like his neighbours, used to annoy
Nell and her dogs, came home after some years' travels in America. He
met Nell one day and asked her if she knew him; she quickly replied to
him, “Ye wratch, have ye come back again.” Another gentleman of the town
sent her a present of some tobacco one day by his son; Nell thanked him
thus—“God bless his banes.” |