"Yestreen at the valentines'
dealing
My heart to my mou' gied a sten,
For thrice I drew ane without failing,
And thrice it was written—Tarn Glent"
The practice to which these
well-known lines of Burns refer has clean passed away. It was common enough
when they were written—now one hundred years ago—and in. rural districts of
Scotland was probably universal. In these districts it has lingered longest;
and there must be many old or elderly persons amongst us who remember in
their youth taking part in the practice. The century, when it was still
among the "thirties," looked with no disfavour upon the rustic merriment
that attended a "valentines' dealing." But its own inventions and scientific
discoveries, its projects and its anticipations, have had the effect of
breaking its connection with many a traditional and time-honoured
institution, of which the great annual lovers' festival of St Valentine's
Eve was one. Nobody keeps vigil for the 14th of February now. The festival
has gone even more clean and completely than its more antiquated but not
more joyous sister institutions of Hallowe'en and Hogmanay. The favourite
sports and customs of this inventive nineteenth century are almost entirely
those of its own creation. It has broken with the mirth and sociality of the
past more effectually than any of its predecessors.
It was the custom in every
rustic community when Scotland was still ancient—that is, less than a
century ago—for one or more companies of young unmarried folks of both sexes
to meet together on St Valentine's Eve, in the house of one or other of
their more socially-inclined neighbours, for the purpose of trying the award
of fate in a drawing of valentines. The arrangements for the frolic were of
the simplest Yet they were sufficiently effective to secure a gathering.
Then, at least, it was true that in the spring the young folks' fancy
"lightly turned to thoughts of love." It was only necessary to provide two
bags and a quantity of tickets bearing the names of eligible individuals
well known in the community. The bachelors of the rustic gathering drew from
the bag containing the female names, while the maids drew from that which
held the names of the bachelors. At some assemblies the names were limited
to the individuals constituting the company; but as it seldom happened that
the company was equally composed of members of both sexes, and as it was
necessary for the proper observance of the festival that each person should
be provided with a mate, it was not unusual to add the names of absentees.
Some of the absentees were—from advanced age, or evil temper, or bodily
deformity or defect—anything but desirable partners: a circumstance which,
of course, heightened the interest of the drawing, and gave greater variety
to the blind awards of the "poke" of destiny. Delight or dissatisfaction
rarely failed to show itself in the countenances of the drawers, even when
they sought to conceal the name on the ticket. One of two things could be
inferred from the concealment of a name that had been drawn —either that
fate's award was the object of special dislike or even aversion, or was the
object of sincere but secret affection. It was usual to make appeal to the
decision of the lot three times (they did the same in the "luggie"
ceremonial at Hallowe'en) for better assurance of the will of fate; and his
or her lot was, of course, fixed beyond all alteration who drew—as did Tarn
Glen's sweetheart—the one name "thrice without failing." As a rule, the
result of each person's drawing was known to the rest; and it occasionally
happened that the bashfulness of young people, quite prepared to become
mutual lovers, was overcome by the decision of St Valentine, and that in
this way real engagements were formed which by and by matured into
matrimony. Married people, especially wives, belonging to the neighbourhood,
attended those gatherings, and showed, as passive but by no means silent
spectators, an interest in the awards of the love-lottery as keen as that of
the most active of the young folks for whose behoof the day of St Valentine
had been appointed. They encouraged the bashful girl and bantered the
conceited bachelor, and generally kept the fun and excitement from flagging
often till a late hour of the night. When the lottery was at last over, and
some were happy, while some were disappointed, and all were excited, the
homely entertainment of a few "girdle" cakes and a
"twalpenny's worth o nappy
Wad mak' the bodies unco happy.*'
They became hilarious, and
sang and danced it off to the late long hour, heedless of the scowl of the
Kirk, which was (neither divinely nor humanly) inimical to late hours, and
expressly hostile to what it called promiscuous dancing.
This resort to lot and good
St Valentine for a lover was by no means confined to rustic communities in
Scotland. It was known and practised in England, and in several countries on
the Continent, in mediaeval times, and was very much in vogue among people
of rank and riches in the 15th and 16th centuries. It seems to have been
usual then for the lovers to exchange presents, and to maintain a kind of
chivalrous bearing towards each other, of a nature which has been compared
to the relation that existed between a knight of romance and his ladye-love,
for at least one year—that is, till St Valentine permitted and provided a
change. In the reign of the Merry Monarch it would seem from the Diary of
that prince of tattlers, Mr Pepys, that married people could take part in
the celebrations of St Valentine's Eve, and that the custom of presenting
gifts had sunk, through inability or refusal to accept the award of the
Saint, into the payment of forfeits—similar to the mail which spinsters, if
they choose, may, in certain circumstances, levy on a 29th of February, only
much costlier.
The practice of sending
"valentine" letters by post was a later feature of the celebration of St
Valentine's Day. It has not yet entirely disappeared, but every twelvemonth
there is all over the country, in regions where the custom lingers, a
sensible diminution in the number of those fragrant billets. Whilom they
were of aggregate bulk enough to break the postman's back; now he can carry
them in the pocket of his vest, if the Government allow him one. Serving
maids and men, but especially the former, in our larger towns, and a
fraction of the peasantry inhabiting the more forlorn parishes, are the
modern representatives—few in number—of those ancient lovers who yearly
soughtout and saluted their mates by favour of the post. Their missives,
though calling in the art of both painter and poet, had yet a certain
monotony of features which, for want of development, helped, we think, in
some measure to put an end to the custom. The painter or designer confined
himself to the representation of a pair of genteel lovers; a fat Cupid or
two, drawing vigorous bows; and the never-failing emblem of a brace of
bleeding hearts, pitifully pinned together. Roses filled the foreground, and
a church-spire rose up as a signal of hope and help in the rear. The poet's
part of the work was to condense as much sweet sentiment into two or four
lines of verse as— with the aid of the united Nine, no doubt—he could
possibly manage.
"The rose is red, the violet's
blue,
Honey's sweet, and so are you!"
This was to the point without
being epigrammatic. Or in a less luscious and direct, but more tender and
somewhat forgetful strain—
"Look on those eyes that ever
gaze
With truth and love on thine,
The voice that wearies not in praise
Of thee, my valentine."
("He goes but to see a voice
which he heard," says Peter Quince in the play!) We quote from a dainty but
frail old print, with a deep border of paper lace-work, and a thin garland
of roses and violets, enclosing the portrait of a languishing young
Romeo-Adonis, whose eyes may be truthful and loving, but whose voice is
scarcely visible. There can be no doubt that many an honest, simple-minded
rustic, whose heart was seriously affected, believed in the institution and
efficacy of the postal valentine. The male specimen— always the more
lavish—has been known to expend five shillings, or even more, upon the print
which best expressed, his fears and hopes, his general unworthiness, and his
particular wishes; painfully to smear in the letters of his own name and
those of his charmer; and with much sheep-stealing-like secrecy to commit
the missive to the hands of the waylaid postman. Happy if in return he
received a sixpenny leaf from his Dulcinea ! to take odd peeps at it among
the February furrows, and at last to consign it to the "locker" of his kist
as a valuable treasure scarcely inferior to his whole year's fee. Ridiculous
and vulgar valentines came in among all this sweetly sentimental sort, and
hastened that decay of the postal valentine which the monotony of the
artists' imagery had already commenced. The Christmas card—a formidable
rival, capable of expansive development, and of universal use throughout
Christendie—crept rapidly into favour, and the valentine was doomed. It may
be that, unless the card keep clear of the threatening taint of vulgarity,
its doom may follow that of the valentine.
"Who was St Valentine?" is a
question often asked and often unanswered. Why he was selected to be the
patron saint of youthful lovers.is the more difficult query to answer. That
he was a Christian priest who suffered martyrdom in pagan Rome, in the
second or third century of our era, is generally believed; and we have the
further information that he was killed with clubs and then decapitated, and
that his death occurred some time in February. It was, I think, Douce in his
"Illustrations of Shakespeare" that first connected the "valentines'
dealing" with a very similar feature of the old Roman festival of the
Lupercal, held in the middle of February. It has been suggested that the
Church, being unable to abolish the popular old pagan custom of the
Lupercalian games, contrived (suo more) to give them a Christian aspect by
placing them under the presidency of a saint to whom a day in mid-February
was dedicated. The Church had no choice; Valentine was the only saint in its
calendar associated with February. Similarly the Scandinavian celebration of
Yule was converted into the religious institution of Christmas.
It is out of place here to do
more than refer to the many allusions to St Valentine's Day and its usages
which are to be found in the pages of poet, romancer, and essayist, from
Chaucer and Shakespeare continuously down to Charles Lamb and Sir Walter
Scott. St Valentine had an ephemeral literature in the days of the missives.
He has the honour of a standard literature of goodly bulk besides.